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Advise Needed

Merry Meet everyone, so what kind of advise does she need, you're probably wondering. Well frankly my husband and I are having serious marital problems. A few months ago I had a moment of weakness, I'm not going to go into details, but let's just say I did something I knew was wrong but did it anyway. I have no one to blame but myself. My husband said that he didn't want a divorce he wanted to stay together but now there's a major strain on the marriage and I'm not sure how to fix it. Does anyone know of a spell or ritual that would help us? I don't want it to be a spell to change my husband just something to get us past this. I grew up in a family where someone did something to you and you just forget about it and move on. My husband is not that type of man and I fear that we're not going to last. I don't know what to do. So basically I'm asking for help and advice. If anyone has either let me know. Thank you!
-Blessed Be!

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Permalink Reply by MoonJoy on January 12, 2010 at 9:59pm

Spells or rituals cannot help you in this case, I think... If you did something that caused this, you have to take the responsibility, and no spell or ritual can help you get away from that. Sorry if it sounds harsh, but that's the Threefold Law here.

If your husband is not the type to forgive easily, and if you are willing to acknowledge your responsibility, you might want to do a spell or ritual to improve communication... That COULD work in soothing him. You could do a spell to ensure that communication will be clear on your part, and that you will be totally honest. You can do something so that a discussion between both of you holds only honesty, no matter how it may hurt.

I don't know if you and he communicate very well, maybe that would be a step in the right direction, improving communication. If anything, honesty and being true to the feelings both of you have can make you go through this. However, if love is lost, don't force anything. Just gently let it go.

I wish you the best of luck :)

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Permalink Reply by Holly M Hardenbrook on January 17, 2010 at 5:25pm

Thank you for the advise. I found one spell that for Reconciliation and to summon the mutual love that's already there. So we'll see how it goes. But thank you so much for responding.
Blessed Be

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Permalink Reply by Greg Neighbors on January 17, 2010 at 7:37pm

I recently went through the same thing, the big difference is that my wife actually left me for another man. We have since gotten back together and things are going well. She had her reasons and though I may not agree with her method she did teach me a lesson. You and your husband can get through this. It will be very difficult to do but if you are meant to be you will find a way together. The most important thing to do is to sit and talk to him about it, but only after you look deep inside of yourself to find out what made you do what you did.
A moment of weakness, that may well be the case. But something inside of you needed something else, you need to find out what it was. There are spells and meditations to help you with that, but nothing to mend a rift that was caused by this moment of weakness.

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Permalink Reply by Becca Precopio on January 18, 2010 at 7:00am

Hello Molly,

I agree that a spell or ritual is not the way to go. My advice would be to talk to a professional like a marriage counselor who has more knowledge on the subject. If your husband is unwilling to go at first then you may want to try to see a therapist yourself. I would suggest slowly bringing your husband into your sessions and take it from there. He may not be willing to go. Sometimes you may need to love the person enough to let go.

BB and *hugs*
Becca

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Permalink Reply by Claudia Blanton on January 18, 2010 at 11:02am

Whatever you did - there had to be an underlying issue that made you do something negative to your relationship. Instead of focusing on the repair of the relationship only, I would suggest to look deeper into whatever is going on within you, that has brought on this issue in the first place. Are you missing something in your life? Are you lonely within your relationship? Do you have any insecurities that need to be adressed? Try to find out to bring what is hidden in the open, so that you can fix this underlying issue, and not find yourself in an similar situation, after your husband has decided to forgive you - and then find yourself back at this moment. There is a lesson in there somewhere and it will keep coming up until you figured it out.
BB
Claudia