This is really two issues that I badly need help with. Firstly, I live in a house with two (what may as well be) balls of negative energy. My father and younger sister are always in a cruddy mood and it's filled the entire house with so much negative energy that it's hard for me to even breathe when I'm home! I've tried explaining this to them but they ridicule me (neither of them are Paganistic - they're agnostics leaning more toward atheism) and brush my concerns off like they don't matter. They don't take me seriously at all, and that leaves me only with the option to clear the negative energy in the air by myself. I would burn sage, but my father has the nose of a bloodhound and would certainly raise Hell if he found out about it. So my first question is: what other ways can I use to clear the negative energy from my home?
Second, I've been told multiple times that I seriously need to work on grounding, as I seem to have a huge excess of spiritual and creative energy that is just scattered like a fireworks show. As fascinated as I am with the darker side of the spirit world, I don't want to attract their attention that way. I finally caved after an intuitive reading a few days ago and decided to try it. However, every time I attempt to ground myself, I end up feeling like crud for the rest of the day. Perhaps it's just because of all the negative energy in my house, or maybe I'm not doing it right. I don't know. I'd like some advice on how to properly ground myself so I'm not putting up a light show for the evil things out there and so that I can center myself more and put my energy to good use. I've been told to use dark-colored stones like black tourmaline and haematite, but I'm not sure how they would help. I would appreciate any advice thrown my way.
Thanks so much.
I love the description of your dad & sister!! lol. Seriously though, they must be a pain. I doubt you will change them, especially your dad, so you need to change yourself and how you react to them. I find that burning essential oils can be a way of clearing negative energy and they are sometimes more acceptable than burning sage bundles. You could of course make up your own spray bottle for clearing negative energy and spray the rooms when your family are out. Spray into corners and openings like windows, doors and air bricks. I have my own recipes but you may find many other in the spell groups here?
Wearing a black stone or crystal is good for grounding yourself. I have a friend who carries an Apache Tear in her bra, just a small one, which helps to ground her. A pendant, bracelet, or ring with a dark stone will help. Remember to always put a circle of light around yourself each morning and top it up when your around negative people.
Good Luck x
Hello Lady Skydancer!
I like the idea of using a spray rather than burning anything. I have some oils but not very many. What would you recommend using? I have lavender, rosemary, jasmine (enchanced, mind you - it's hard to find pure stuff without ordering from the internet), eucalyptus, rosewood, and peppermint oils - would any of those form a decent combination for cleansing?
Also, I may wire-wrap one of the black tourmaline stones I got the other day. Thank you also for that suggestion.
Thanks so much,
I burn sage sometimes when my parents aren't home and just tell them that it's incense. Do they specifically know the scent of sage and this angers them, or is burning anything a problem? I'm a little confused on that part. I find that for me personally, when I am alone in the house, cleaning it physically helps. Clutter really gets to me when I'm alone. Not sure why.
No, they don't know the scent of sage - pretty much burning anything in the house is a major issue with my father. He complains nonstop if something gets on the burners when I'm cooking and makes the kitchen smell. His sense of smell is really strong - to an annoying extreme - and I fear that if I burn anything he'll just replace the negative energy I had just cleared out in a matter of minutes.
Thank you for your response,
I have recently read in a number of places that the ringing of bells, especially silver or brass ones, will cleanse an area. The idea behind this is that the noise scares away evil spirits and negativity. This is what I am planning to do where I live, as well as making home blessing charm bags to replace the negativity. Feel free to send me a message for details.
keep a bowl of rock salt or natural sea salt (non-iodised, non-chemically processed) out in your room. alternatively a pyramid crysal will be same. beware of imitation or perfect pyramids, they could be glass plastic or any other materials. this will absorb and ground negative energies in your room. meditate constantly. try to open your third eye, this will automatically ground yourself and also the negative energies around you.
I like your ideas as well. How big of a bowl would you suggest using for the salt? Not a ridiculously large one, of course, but would a small sauce-cup work?
I've heard of opening the third eye, but I'm not entirely clear on how to do this. Is it purely a meditative process or are there multiple ways of going about it? Where could I go to find info on this?
Thanks so much,
a small cup or saucer of salt will do. please change it periodically, depenting of energies absorbed.
To open third eye: close your eyes and think of a deity, preferably male, (usually Shiva of of hindu pantheon, but you can choose any panthoen) concentrate on chanting the name of diety. at first you see nothing or feel nothing. then slowly you see tunnel fully dark. after much concentration you get into meditation, ie you can chant easily. slowly you can see light at the end. then it is a flame. from then on your energies karma etc will take you