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Bright Blessings. I'm reaching out as I'm struggling with a situation that has gone on for too long and I can't abide it anymore. A few years ago my half-sister got divorced and moved in with my elderly parents in their 100 year old house. My half-sister got a couple of hundred thousand dollars in the divorce, but refuses to spend any of it. She has been living rent-free in my parent's home for 2 years. She pays no bills, refuses to get a job and my mother waits on her hand and foot. This winter their furnace died and they can't afford to get a new one because they spend all their money on her. She could buy them a new furnace but won't spend a dime. She is a vegetarian, so requires special food that is expensive that my parents have to pay for, cook for her and serve her like waitstaff at a restaurant. My 82 year old father has to go out in the morning to start her car and warm it up for her when it's cold out. She will not even buy her own personal items or clothes. She won't even flush the toilet by herself! She follows my mother around like a stalker, listens to her phone conversations (and constantly interrupts to correct her), and calls her multiple times to see where she is and what she's doing if Mom is out with me or with friends. My father can't do anything because my mother won't let him. I have talked until I can't talk anymore and my mother refuses to listen. She says she will not abandon 'her child' who is 55 years old. I've called the Office of the Aging and they had an interview with my parents but can't do anything unless my mother signs a complaint, which she will not do. I've even considered dark magick but I just can't endanger my karma for the sake of such a worthless, parasitic excuse for a human being. Please does anyone have any ideas how to get her out of my parents' house? Any input would be appreciated. Thank you!
Permalink Reply by Drakill Tannan on EDIT: I'll rephrase
This is not your fault, rather everyone else's. Your sister is being a parasite, her fault. Your mother is allowing her to be her parasite, her fault. Finally your father decides to remain in a pathologically functional sistem for some reason, his fault. You can't do anything because it is your mother's choice weather she'll continue having a parasite on her home (No offence intended to your sis) and you can't take it away from her. (I don't mean you shouldn't, i mean you can't. It is imposible).
But furthermore this is not -your- problem. It is -their's-. You don't even share any of the responsability. Just let them be, i say.
Permalink Reply by Rachael Sue Rubin on the longer i live, i have come to realize, that people really don't do want they don't want too, period.
Your mother has some psychological need that your sister is fulfilling. And if you take that need she has away, she might be angry at you.
Just like when someone stays in an abusive relationship, complains to everyone how bad it is, but when given the chance to leave, they very seldom do.
Its like two children one is good and one is bad, and the bad one gets the most attention, while the good one gets shoved aside and not even acknowledged for the good in them. The human psyche is a mysterious thing, we will probably never fully understand.
People get used to routines especially older people, and it is their reason for keeping going, maybe your mom and dad have lived so long, because they know your sister will not make it in this world without them, this might be what keeps them going. i hope when they pass on you are not left to care for her, out of some since of duty to your parents. Make her take care of herself.
Try not to do any black magick, it might backfire on you, as shitty as your sister is, she might be what keeps your mom going as she might feel needed and it is a purpose for her, and if you take that away, who knows what will happen. blessed be.
Wise words Rachael. I agree whole heartedly.
Permalink Reply by sharpcanoe on There is a little prayer that I use alot which helps me clairify things better....It goes like.....(1)grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change(If I cannot change it then I have to accept it)...(2)the courage to change the things I can(have the courage to change it if possible).....(3)and the wisdom to know the difference(this is the big part..to know if I can accept it /change it/or have to let it go if I cannot do 1 or 2) good luck and my prayers will be with you
Permalink Reply by Oberon ~ COA on Thanks for all the feedback. I appreciate it. Just hard to see my parents being hurt.
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