to be taken with a grain of salt

Being pregnant is hard, especially at the very beginning (when your best friend is a ceramic bowl in a bathroom) and at the last 3rd (when you can no longer reach the floor, see your toes, reach the cupboards, or do much of anything for that matter because the baby is growing so rapidly it's got you exhausted.)
Add a child to that mix. That means no napping when you need it, no breaks, finger prints all over the table you JUST washed and probably in something like peanut butter for that, toys everywhere "MOMMY" every 10-40 minutes and much much more.
Sound hard? Now add bed rest to your life, this means you are no longer allowed to chase your 5 year old around, do the dishes, you are not to bed below your waist, you are not to lift anything above 10lbs, and you are suppose to be physically laying down a lot of the time. and no standing for more then 20 minutes...cause that's possible.

So now what? your house is falling apart, your child feels neglected, and you feel utterly worthless and useless.

Well in most cases you have a spouse to help you.
Now I'm not saying my spouse doesn't TRY to help. He just doesn't try very hard... at all... in fact he barely tries at all.

example: today I went to work early, I take the 5 year old to work with me (we care for an elderly woman and my daughter lights up her days.) so instead of leaving between 3-3:30 we left at 1. This means from 1pm-8:30 we were gone. if your math skills are bad that's 7 and a half hours. I gave my husband a simple chore list.
-make our daughters bed
-sweep her floor
-vacuum her floor
-pick up the toys in her room
-throw out her arts stuff she spilt in her room (natural consequence)
-pick up the toys in the living room and put them in her toy box
-clean off the coffee table
-fix up the couch
-wipe down the counter top
-wipe down the table
-make dinner
more or less I needed him to get the floor stuff done the stuff I SERIOUSLY am not allowed to do.

all of this should have taken him 30 mintues
what did he do?
He played xbox until 5:30
then he did a quick sweep of her room
and picked up MAYBE a quarter of the living room
and when he called be around 6pm I had him put dinner on

then I came home made a pot of coffee and started doing HIS chores while he lays in bed STILL playing xbox and he's mad at ME?

I didn't get mad at him when I got home, I didn't say anything about what he didn't do, in fact I had the 5 year old go and thank him for cleaning her room then put her to bed and immediately started cleaning.

is it MY fault he feels guilty knowing I'm NOT suppose to be doing this? NO because these were his chores to do and he SHOULD feel guilty but to get mad at me because he is a lazy @#$ who expects me to sit back while our house falls apart even with a child living with us is ridiculous. She needs a clean stable home, and we need a SUPER clean home and practice keeping the home super clean cause soon there will be a BABY in the house too and if I am the only one who is going to clean then so be it, but if I go into early labour that's not my fault someone has to make ends meet and clean the house and if he won't then I guess it has to be me cause the 5 yr old sure as hell can't!

Again not saying he doesn't try, especially if he thinks someone is watching but I haven't slept in weeks, I never sleep for more then an hour I'm physically, emotionally and mentally EXHAUSTED and yet I'm the bad guy, it's not fair and it's not right. I love my husband to death, believe me if I didn't in my hormonal state his stuff would all be in the snow not even in boxes on the front lawn. It's not and I am sure he means well but when his xbox live expires he better get his ass in gear because if I have to do this by myself I am not having him stay because I signed up for a husband not a teen age son and as such I expect a partner not someone who expects me to take care of them all the time.

Now this is titled to be taken with a grain of salt because I am exhausted and upset and just needed to vent. It is to be noted my husband tries to do the dishes every couple days, he vacuums when I cry about it, he walks the 5 year old to school, and sometimes lets me nap during the day, he loves us very much and he's trying "his best" and we love and appreciate him VERY much but lately "his best" seems very half assed and it really hurts me to feel second to a fucking piece of junk video game system... that is all this is just a vent and a rant nothing more.

I love my husband very much and do not want to see comments on here that speak ill of him please and thank you. He is a good man just sometimes a bit more of a boy then a man.